i'm finding it a struggle at the moment, to know when to speak and when to hold my tongue. i feel that in more cases than not, i make the wrong decision, whether it's a conscious decision or not. sometimes i seem to get myself into situations where you can't seem to help but follow the conversation. one of my friends emailed me last night to apologise for how he'd been 'bitching' about his ex and her potential new flame, and the negative impacts that has on their entire group of friends, and how, coz she's good friend of mine, he'd pulled me into something that wasn't helpful for either of us. i was reading his apology and not really thinking it was necessary. but maybe it was necessary for him to say, for the benefit of himself. i think i just need to stop when beginning to talk with someone about someelse and really think about if it's a godly conversation, or if it's just gossip or going behind someone's back. maybe i should just say outloud, "wait..." before continuing or halting the direction of the conversation. sometimes though too, i reckon i don't even realise the unhelpfulness of the words i say. laughing things off isn't always benefifical for everyone. hmmmm....
and as an aside i finished my book last night - top read!